Probably the most frequent issue that comes up in my private messages is from parents pouring their hearts out over the grief they feel about their child’s fall from the Faith.
There is an acute agony associated with this pain.
Many blame themselves, wonder what they could have done differently, and feel deep embarrassment over the fact that they have a child who has shed the Faith they were raised in.
So often their child is falling into a pit and they feel helpless to help them and usually their child doesn’t want the help.
It breaks my heart to get these kinds of messages and my attempted words of consolation seem so pitiful as compared to the anxiety they feel.
It, also, hurts my heart because I once caused this pain to my mother.
I have no perfect solution to help bring a child back quickly. All I know is that you have to outlast them.
When my kids were little and were acting up, I’d always tell them firmly, “I will outlast you.” I wasn’t going to give up and let their bad behavior win the day. Because I love them, I knew I could never give in.
With kids that have strayed from the Faith, outlast them. Even if it takes years and years of prayer and sacrifices, never give up. Not only will this suffering be a source of sanctification for you, but it can merit graces for your child.
I truly do pray nearly everyday at Mass for my fellow Pilgrims that have children who have lost their Faith.
Fly to Jesus and Mary’s heart and seek solace there. Never give up hope, Catholic Pilgrims. Sometimes we have to play the long game.
Have a blessed Monday.
